How to make your crush talk more to you? And tips for increasing your confidence level

 It is very usual for a human being to feel scared just before an important event. So, at this time how to make yourself to feel confident? If you ask some self-help author, they would suggest you to ask the question to yourself “What is the worst thing that could happen?”. Sometimes that helps. But if you are like Bing, your answer/question would be “Could I be more stressed out?”. Calming yourself with your pep talk is comparatively more difficult than the technique what I am going to say.

We sometimes feel some emotions and those emotions will trigger some action in us. The reverse is also possible. You just need perform the action in order to retain these feelings. If you ever felt sad, think of the things that you would do when you were excited and start doing those things. Eventually, you would be excited. For example, I would talk nonsense to my friends when I am really excited. (If you have not witnessed my nonsense talk we are not close because I am not that lucky to have you close in my life😉) Hence, I would try to talk nonsense when I feel that I am sad. One of the things you should keep in mind is that you should not try hard or else you would fall into the sadness loop. 

Turning your head from left to right is associated with no. Likewise, steeple gesture is associated with being confident. Just do this steeple gesture before attending an important event and you might feel the increase in your confidence level. Also, try to walk 25% faster than your normal speed and see what happens. This may look silly but most effective techniques are silly and simple.

One of the most fearful thing for most people is public speaking. So how do you make yourself to talk and share more in front of everyone? Jonah Berger conducted an experiment in which one set of participants were asked to sit and relax in a chair for a minute and other set of participants were asked to jog for a minute that is they were physiologically aroused. They were then given an article to read and it was up to them to share the article with someone. Those who were physiologically aroused shared 75% of the time which is more than twice than those who sat for a minute. In order to share more at a presentation, make sure that you were not sitting before the presentation. Also, make sure that you don’t share too much.

If you want your partner to share more, make them walk while they talk. Now it is no wonder why there are so many couples walk while they talk at my college 😄.